https://summaryshelf.app/authors/sue-johnson/Recent content in Sue Johnson on SummaryShelfHugoen-usSat, 23 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://summaryshelf.app/hold-me-tight/Sat, 23 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://summaryshelf.app/hold-me-tight/<p>Most couples think they&rsquo;re fighting about money, chores, or how often they have sex. Sue Johnson says they&rsquo;re really asking one buried question: Are you there for me? Can I count on you when it counts? Underneath the slammed doors and the cold silences, each partner is trying to find out whether the other will respond when they reach out. This isn&rsquo;t weakness or excessive neediness. Love, Johnson argues, is a survival mechanism as basic as hunger, and losing a secure connection triggers a primal panic wired into us long before we could name it.</p>