Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 00:00:00 +0000

If you grew up bracing for a parent’s mood, or sensed that you existed to manage their feelings instead of the other way around, you weren’t imagining it. Emotional maturity means being able to think objectively while sustaining deep emotional connections with others — and some parents never developed it. Often their own caretakers restricted emotional expression, so they grew up defensive, inconsistent, and unable to engage. They can’t tolerate feelings, theirs or yours, and so they train you into a role that keeps everyone calm. The loneliness that follows can trail you for decades without a name. Recovery starts with seeing the parent as they actually are, expecting nothing to change, and rebuilding life around your own preferences.

Lindsay C. Gibson on SummaryShelf

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents