John M. Gottman and Nan Silver on SummaryShelfhttps://summaryshelf.app/authors/john-m.-gottman-and-nan-silver/Recent content in John M. Gottman and Nan Silver on SummaryShelfHugoen-usMon, 09 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Workhttps://summaryshelf.app/seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/Mon, 09 Dec 2024 00:00:00 +0000https://summaryshelf.app/seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/<p>You can&rsquo;t argue your way to a lasting marriage. That&rsquo;s the surprising finding behind John Gottman&rsquo;s decades in the lab, where after watching a couple disagree for just five minutes he can predict divorce with 91% accuracy. The couples who last aren&rsquo;t the ones with the best conflict-resolution skills or the fewest fights. They&rsquo;re the ones who&rsquo;ve built a solid friendship underneath the conflict—who know each other, respect each other, and stay connected in ordinary moments. Everything else follows from that.</p>